Why women have extramarital affairs?
Chat about a loaded subject that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on from millennium. Extramarital relationships can be loaded with problems, cause heartache, and other harms. In addition you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety issue, funds, age difference, religious education, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will identify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, discreet dating for married.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek affair. I suppose generally though it is just the human nature, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and exciting, and sex makes us get away the world for a brief period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone are able to turn the longing on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos culture has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many people the yearnings will overcome their fears and make them risk the rage of not only their relatives, but society too. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is very pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not harm your spouse or anyone else? You will need to reduce the hazard you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest cluster, very big actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they feel comfy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the children to look after. Your money are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be as a family besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them completing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair at times solves the trouble while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, usually the guy is sexually neglecting his lady for a tones of reasons. As a man I truly am thankful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is disappeared, could be it is the closeness, could be neglect. Maybe we have just developed apart, our common interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is contradictory of what you want. Maybe I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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